Saturday, April 23, 2016

"T"- Todd

What?! It's not 10pm yet and I'm posting !! I tell ya, blogging on Saturdays is not easy for me. This is the 2nd weekend since I moved , so I feel like I have to work from dusk to dawn to get the place in order. We spent the entire morning and afternoon unpacking the garage.  I know , you'd think we would focus on the inside of the house BUT... I needed to know where some things were in the garage. To add to my all time craziness, i have my junk show that I signed up for next weekend.  I had my first show last November, and she let us sign up for the spring show at the time.  Of course, I had no idea I would be buying a house 6 months later when I signed up.  I'm really not ready but at same time, I really need to sell a lot of stuff to get out of my garage. 
I wanted to mention my sweet husband Todd.  In August, we will celebrate our 3rd year wedding anniversary. We dated 2 years before we married so almost 5 years that we've been together. 
Todd is 6 months older than me and I live that we're the same age.  He also loves music as much as I do. We attend many concerts and love listening to live bands.  Todd is also a drummer for our church worship band.  We often mention how lucky we are that we both love music and have quite a bit of knowledge between the two of us about bands , songs, etc.  
Todd loves to ride his Harley.  Fun fact, I helped him study for his motorcycle license test 12 years ago.  I had my license years before him and when we first met, he called them Murdercycles and had no interest in bikes.  He's come full circle now!! 
Todd was / is my best friend.  We met 21 years ago and became instant friends. In between those years he had moved to Houston. We never lost touch and always kept up our friendship. It was absolutely 100% platonic.  I literally did not see him as anymore than a friend. He was also married and I knew his wife and we would all hang out together sometimes. Fast forward to 2011, i had ended an 8 yr relationship with my Ex and Todd has recently divorced.  We were checking on each other just for moral support and to make sure each other were OK.   One night we stepped out for dinner, and he said to me " you realize this is the first time ever we are both single at the same time".  I just nodded and stared.  Todd then said , " I think we have to least give it a shot to see if there is chemistry between us.  Let's face it, we know everything about each other - good , bad and ugly".  I was so scared of the possibility that it could ruin our friendship, I got angry that he would even consider us dating.   Later on that week, I was talking to mom over the phone and I remember telling her " you're not going to believe what Todd did! He went THERE and made our friendship awkward. It was like Harry met Sally". Then Mom told me that she couldn't explain it but that she had good feeling about us. She felt like she knew Todd from all the years of our friendship. He used to always call me when I visited her in Montana.  She said " y'all are grown adults, if it doesn't feel right after the first date or so, stop before it jeopardizes your friendship. 
Like they say, the rest is history! Todd has been my rock this past year and more. When I "broke" and became very anxious and depressed , he's been so great.  When I started counseling, he was supportive. When i lost Daddy a few months ago, he was right by my side.  I haven't been easy to live with lately with my anxiety off the hook from the move.  He hugs me and tells me it will all work out.  
I love him so much and I'm so lucky that he loves me.  I still wonder why GOD has me wait until I was 45 to ever marry for the first time , then I just remind myself that HE was preparing both myself and Todd for each other in marriage.  


18 comments:

  1. Hi, dear Holli!

    T is for Todd and quite rightly. Friends first is an excellent starting point for a relationship and you and Todd gave it a good long run before you took it to the next level. I am very happy to know that it worked out so well for the two of you. You make a great couple and you both look genuinely happy in these pictures. A great friend who is also your lover is a rare commodity in today's world. Consider yourselves lucky.

    Enjoy the rest of your weekend, dear friend Holli!

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    1. Thank you sweet friend. Yes , I am lucky indeed! Hope you had s wonderful weekend.

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  2. It's great to see things are working out for you. Before you know it, it will be another six months down the road and things will have settled down and you can relax. I'm sure before six months, but you know what I mean.

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    1. Um you're probably correct on the next six months. It certainly feels that way!! I am so ready to have it all unpacked and it seems like I'm in slow motion.

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  3. Oh, wow—this is a gorgeous story! Finding a soul mate in your best friend of 20+ years... If it was a novel, it'd be too perfect :D And I love—love—the two of you in red sneakers for the wedding! Congratulations, Holli... And thank you for sharing this story :)
    Guilie @ Life In Dogs

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    1. Aww thanks Guilie!! It is pretty crazy that we wound up happily married. Never would have guessed it was possible. The sneakers are actually a dark orange but the pictures do make them look red. It was so nice being comfy for the reception!

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  4. What a sweet post about your husband. Loving all the photos you shared. You are so blessed to have him in your life. I am six weeks older than my husband and we were born in the same hospital. Didn't meet him until High School.

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    1. That's so cool that y'all were born in same hospital and met in high school. I am so lucky to have him for sure!!

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  5. Amazes me to know you "taught him everything he knows" about bikes! Didn't know that, and wouldn't think you could take a man from murdercycles to Sturgis in one lifetime! May that life time together be long and blessed.

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    1. Thanks for all the encouragement and well wishes. Our marriage needs prayers always to stay strong.

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  6. I know about posts in the last few hours, but they still count! Great shout out about Todd!

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    1. Thanks Mike, he was the first thing that popped in head for letter T. Haha!

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  7. Great post Holli! You have a wonderful husband for sure. You're very blessed.
    GREAT pics. Love the orange sneakers in your wedding photo!

    Michele at Angels Bark

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    1. Thanks Michele!! The sneakers were so great to have during the reception. Yes, they are actually orange even though they look red in picture.

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  8. Great story about you and your husband. And I love the pictures! Good luck on the rest of the A to Z Challenge.

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  9. I love this story. I can totally relate to you being made that he even suggested going THERE. Good friends are hard to come by, and the idea of losing one of your best to a failed relationship attempt... very scary. But, your mom was 100% right. Decide early to keep going to cut it off. I know you're glad that you kept going. And don't question why that you didn't find each other until THIS LATE. Just be glad you did:)

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  10. He was worth the wait, obviously! Not late at all...just in time. My heart smiles at this post.

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  11. Todd is a lucky man. And he sounds like a perfect soulmate. I think sometime in all of our lives we meet our soulmates. We are not always ready for them. And they aren't always ready for us. But when it is the perfect time it is beautiful. Richard was my soulmate. Hug yours tighter everyday.

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