Thursday, January 19, 2017

Celebration of Life for Dad and a Regift

Good morning yall!  Last week was a tough week. I cried everyday and my eyes stayed swollen until this past Monday.  Last Thursday was the day my dad passed away a year ago.  I worked from home so that i didnt have to put on makeup and see anyone.  I cried pretty hard at moments.  I have to share something special with you though.
I sometimes hide precious things that mean a lot to me. My fear is if my house is ever robbed, i dont want them to find everything in my main jewelry box. Does anyone else have irrational thoughts and behaviors like that? ( I was robbed back in high school so there's a story behind my thoughts. I'll save that for another post).  I thought I had lost an amethyst pendant along with my senior class ring from high school. Its been at least 2 years since i had thought i lost them.   While working in my home office ( it's messy) on Thursday , I came across an old wooden jewelry box and of all things to found was that pendant ( along with class ring) Daddy had bought that necklace and matching earrings for me when I was in high school or early college. It was my very first set of "real grown up stones". It was funny because he got my birthstone mixed up with my grandmas. Mimi's birthday is February 17 and mine is May 17.  I can still remember the look on his face as i was opening my gift. He had his big goofy smile and his eyes were twinkling. He was as excited to give me the gift as i was receiving it. Daddy said to me " its your birthstone right? and i replied No Daddy, its even better, its Purple"!  My birthstone is emerald but i think all girls love pink and purple when they're young.   I still have the earrings and i had lost the pendant a few years ago or so i thought.  I can't help but think that was a sign from Daddy for me to find something so special that came from him on the very day i was grieving for him on his death anniversary.   I had shared this story on Facebook that day and one of my friends mentioned that he Regifted it to me. It made me smile and i needed that!  Oh and  I'm wearing my necklace right now with the pendant.

Saturday was the day of dad's party that i was not looking forward to. Quite honestly, i just wanted to put it behind me.  Funny thing is that so many of my family members and friends felt the same way. I ended up having a really nice day. It was emotional yes but it was shared with loved ones. We released 66 balloons ( Mimi had a special larger white one) and we  all read a prayer that Deb had printed out on little cards.  Then we just relaxed and shared stories about Daddy.  There are soooo many stories! Dad was one of a kind and so funny.  My stepbrother got a huge fire going outside in the fire pit and had tons of food and drink. Some of my closest friends came which meant so much to me.  My grandma Mimi was very emotional when she first arrived. She couldnt stop crying and even said she shouldnt have come.  I hugged her and told her that its good to cry on each other's shoulders. She also had a good time and was glad she came after all.   Mimi lost her only sister (aunt Edith) last month a few days after Christmas. In fact her funeral is this weekend.  I was not very close to my great aunt but i'm going for support to Mimi.

I think i've mentioned before how much i hate January right!!

10 comments:

  1. Hi, Holli!

    Thank you for sharing your account of the party honoring your dad a year after his death. Tough as it was on your emotions, you and the family members and friends that attended would have regretted it if you hadn't been there. It is natural for people to be afraid of their emotions and not want to dredge up painful memories, but the release that comes from a good cry is beneficial. It was beautiful to see pictures of the balloon release and it was a wonderful idea to have people tell their favorite stories about your dad.

    Coming home from the event and discovering your long lost pendant, the one your dad gave you all those years ago, was uncanny and extra special. Although I didn't know the man, your anecdote about the moment he proudly presented the pendant to you put a lump in my throat and brought tears to my eyes.

    Yessum, January was an emotionally wrenching month for you and I admire your courage, Holli. I know you will summon the strength to proceed through the rest of the year in fine fashion. Keep well, have a good weekend, and I will surely connect with you again soon, dear friend!

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    1. Thank you for your sweet words. Just one more week and this month is over. This weekend i had the funeral to attend of my Great Aunt while at the same time the funeral for my friend Brittany was in Arizona.

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  2. I know it was a very difficult day but the love of your family and friends made it special and you have some lovely photos of you and your Grandma Mimi.

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    1. I am glad my cousin captured that pic of me and Mimi. I had no idea she was taking it.

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  3. You should be comforted to know that you have friends and family that care that much. It is a rare thing anymore.

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    1. I dont deny that i am very blessed with loving friends and family.

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  4. This is such a beautiful way to celebrate. You know I love the balloon release. Seeing all those balloons flying high with love for your father must have been awesome. I'm glad you enjoyed it more than you thought you would! Hugs!!

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    1. It was a nice celebration for sure. I dont know if its something i want to continue every year though. Thank you for those Hugs!!

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  5. This felt bittersweet, with an emphasis on the sweet. I love that you told your Daddy "It's better. It's purple," and that you found it when you need to most.
    Hugs and love to you, Holli.

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  6. I love that you found the earrings. Sounds like it was a lovely way to remember your dad and I love a balloon release. Take care.

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